relationships

Harmless Memories

21 February, 2013
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Harmless Memories

    Everyone has been talking a lot about serendipity lately. By “everyone” I mean two people. And by “a lot” I mean it has been mentioned once. But it still got me thinking about how people affect your life. Every single person you have ever known has affected your life in a positive way. I know, many of you may disagree, and contradict me to let me know there is a list of people you could have done without. Maybe. Maybe they didn’t have a great role in your life at the time. Maybe they hurt you. Maybe they…

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Dear Jim…

11 January, 2013
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Dear Jim…

    I think we can all agree that the term “babysitting” generally means watching after children. At least that is the implication. For me, babysitting is when you watch someone else’s children. When you watch your friends’ children or your neighbor’s children, you are in fact babysitting. When you are watching your own children, however, you are not babysitting. You are parenting. No one should have to ask you to watch your own children. You don’t get anything for watching your own children. You just do it. When you decided to have said children you should have known that…

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Dear You

6 January, 2013
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Dear You

First, I’d like to say that I do wish you the best. But as these months have passed by, I’ve realized that you are kind of a dick. I don’t regret most of what I said to you and in hindsight, I think I was spot on with a lot of what I said. You complain how all you want is to be loved. We’ll maybe if you would get the fuck off of Twitter for awhile and stop all those video games and porn, you might meet someone. I gave my love to you and you picked Twitter over…

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Defining Domestic Violence

2 December, 2012
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Defining Domestic Violence

    The New England Journal of Medicine recently published an article stating that domestic violence is the number one cause for non fatal injury to women. The Mayo Clinic recently looked at the domestic violence spectrum and concluded that while domestic violence against women is the most common, domestic violence against men has been occurring more frequently than in past decades and is gaining prominence in doctors’ offices across the nation. When looking at the statistics on domestic violence, four major studies have been conducted in the last year and a half. Of these it has been concluded that…

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Did They Tell You How Hard Parenting Was? No, Me Neither

4 September, 2012
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Parenting doesn’t come with a manual. Well, actually – if you live in the UK they do give you two books when you first fall pregnant. Compiled by the leading experts in their fields the books cover “Pregnancy and Birth” and then “0 to 5”.  They’re a bit like manuals. And you can buy books and find websites a plenty on the subject too. And if you’re a first time Mum or Dad, you may just read those books from cover to cover. You may also find yourself watching TV shows like ‘Great Expectations’ and ‘Super Nanny’ with renewed interest.…

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Silence

13 August, 2012
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Silence

The other day I was wondering what you were doing but then I remembered you were gone. I can’t believe it’s been seven, eight, nine years since you left us so early. Even though we didn’t always get along, I loved you like a sister. It’s not surprising, we had known each other since preschool. Our moms were great friends. We would spend Christmas Eve at your house and get a personal appearance from Santa Claus. I even remember being at your house when they debuted Michael Jackson’s video, Thriller. Your mom was peeking through her fingers the entire time. As…

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Finding My Pleasure Points After A Sexual Assault

4 August, 2012
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Finding My Pleasure Points After A Sexual Assault

I’ve been sexually repressed for the longest time. I was sexually assaulted when I was 15 and it made me see sex as something dirty and physically uncomfortable. It left me bruised and bloodied and my trust in men is something I can still have a difficult time with. It’s rare when I put my trust in a man and I find that for some twisted reason, I can sabotage a relationship because I don’t feel deserving of being treated right. It took me 2 years before I had the courage to reach out and tell someone about the assault.…

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Real Love, not Perfect Love

3 August, 2012
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Heart

I don’t know about ‘most folk’ (whoever the heck they are …) but my life’s experiences of love and relationships, thus far, hasn’t exactly been text book. But then, there isn’t a text book hey? I guess that’s the point. But like a lot of young teenage girls all I knew about love at a young age was romantic fairy tales and rescued princesses. Real life can hit a bit hard after that. If I ever have a daughter I will try and teach her to be strong, independent and in control of her life and body. I’ll also tell her to…

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